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 So you have your profile and photos
posted and now you're wondering how
to get a date. To help you make the
leap and up your odds for success, we've
come up with a simple recipe that seems
to work wonders:
Ingredients for online dating success:
- a completed profile that's snappy
and spell checked
- at least one photo with a smile
- openness to meeting new people
- a good attitude
- being ready to have fun
- understanding that it might
take a while before you meet "the
one"
1. Find ten people that catch
your eye. Do a new search every
week for members in your area. Scan
through and pick ten. Add the top ten
to your Favorites list so you don't
lose track.
2. Pick at least five to contact
each week. Go with your gut to make
the cut, and if you can't resist all
ten, keep them on the list. (If you
don't have a Premium Membership, sign
up at a low monthly fee so you have
the option to contact people at any
time.)
3. Compose a personalized email
for each of the five. Make it easy
on yourself with our 5-Step Email Guide.
4. Send all five emails! Don't
be shy. You won't get a date until
you make the effort.
5. Respond to all people who reply
to your first email. Keep the email
going like you would a conversation
- pay close attention to what the person
is saying and respond honestly, ask
a lot of questions, keep it light, be
polite, don't reveal too much at first
(leave something for when you meet in
person).
6. Respond to everyone who contacts
you first. You never know what great
person you might find behind that email!
And remember that it takes at least
a few emails to get a sense of someone.
If you're definitely not interested,
a simple "I'm sorry, but I can't
correspond with you right now"
will do.
7. When you find someone that
seems interesting enough to meet
(at least 3 emails back and forth is
a good rule of thumb), ask to talk
on the phone or get together offline.
If the person is interested, set up
a casual date. See our First Date Basics
for some helpful hints about making
it happen.
8. Kick back and enjoy the date.
Keep in mind that you're going on a
first date, not walking down the aisle,
so expect to meet a new friend, not
your life mate. Keeping your expectations
in check takes the pressure off and
is one of the keys to a fantastic first
date.
Repeat as desired and have fun!
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