You have seen a personal ad that you like and now you want to respond. Most
people do it wrong and then wonder why they never get a reply. While there are
"secrets" or guarantees, here are 10 tips on how to respond to a personal ad to
help you stand out from the crowd.
1. Write in advance. Draft your response. Use a word processor (Word, WordPad
etc.) to check spelling and grammar. Just remember that a word processor cannot
tell the difference between "live" and "leave".
2. Personalize it. Never use a generic response. Nobody likes a "canned"
response. Each email should be written to that particular person. Visualizing a
real person and writing him/her helps. Want to contact many people as quickly as
possible? Create a template and save it in your computer (or on paper). Then
personalize it for each contact. Single
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3. Study the person's ad and look for clues on how to reply. In your
response, tell how or why you may fit with their hopes, desires and
personality.
4. Avoid overused, generic terms like "Hi_, can we chat?" or "Response to
your ad". Use the subject of the email to catch attention: most people look at
the subject to decide whether to open the email. If you have received responses
for your personal ads, study the ones that attract your attention and model
yours from them.
5. Write more than one line. Tell something about yourself. Give a compliment
but avoid commenting on the person's looks, especially when writing to a pretty
woman (how many others have done that?). You could mention what attracted you to
their ad. Ask questions about something they wrote. Show keen, genuine
interest.
6. Don't write a novel. Long messages can be intimidating, especially if the
person has received lots of responses. They simply get deleted. Keep it short
and sweet.
7. Don't ask for personal information at this point. And never reveal
personal information on first contact.
8. Unless the person has said he/she is looking for a casual relationship,
don't mention anything suggestive of sex. A "friends first" approach works
best.
9. Avoid negativity. Don't mention past failed relationships. And don't brag.
If you like something about yourself or have a special talent, sneak it in
without touting your horn. Example, "My friends say I play the piano really
well."
10. Be pleasant, courteous and positive. And above all, be honest. Don't say
you work out regularly at the gym, as impressive as it may seem, when you know
you're couch potatoes.
There you have 10 tips on how to respond to a personal ad. Take your time and
write a winner. It could mean the difference between success and failure in
getting you the person you seek.
David Kamau owns http://www.e-DateCentral.com which reviews dating sites. Receive
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